3 tops we defined:
Patriarchy & SexismBehaving

• Men are supposed to make the first step in sexual approach
• Men is the strong gender
• →shows the 1st man - 2nd woman

System

• Power lies in the hand of the man
• Economic
• Political/Decision
• Religion (killed female; spiritual figures)

Male Socialisation

• Being taught to act like a man
• Hiding the emotions
• Sports
• Taking space
• Expectation of intelligence through the models (→Artists, Philosophers)
• Competition/pressure
• Persistent socialisation
• Sexual pressure

Male Privileges

• masculine history & presence
• societal expectation to not participate in care – work
• perceived to be “smarter” and “competent”
• perceived to be in leading role
• given more space
• societal acceptance to take more space than others
• physical presence (in public)
• no fear of sexual violence
• strong role models
• don’t need to think about pregnancy or contraception
• relatively raised expectations
•  we can decide if we want to think about sexism/male privilege or not

We tried to find examples from our experiences (RoR/Not RoR):
Expamles

• Being raised to play soccer (story behind…)
• RoR story (but also very much an everyday experience): 2 skilled persons were present but only the male was asked about stuff
• Consent about 1 sexual activity doesn’t automatically include other activities
• Expectations from yourself (or what you think society expects from you) and lack of talking (leads to things like harassment)
• Adapting a specific masculine behaviour because of certain (but  common) situations (like feeling unsure of yourself → you base your  following behaviour in sexist normatives)
• Men repeat content unnecessarily in groups (obviously RoR related too)

RoR Examples

• easier for CIS-males to take roles in RoR (e.g. Maestra)
• Taking notes is mostly done by women
• Instrument balance (e.g. surdos)
• Mansplaining in plenary         
  • for example: summarizing/ending a top because of a louder voice and not using hand signals)
• Men ‘forcefully’ correcting other players playing unasked
• Certain men reproduce more toxic masculinity (and less openness)

Finally we also came up with some approaches and ideas:
Approaches & Ideas

• Asking more questions – speaking less about yourself
• Actively talking about emotions
• Observe emotions of others (but don’t assume ;))
• Practice critical masculinity for example in your flat (eg. texts on the toilet door; having conversations)
• Stop reproducing sexist behaviours because you think you are in a safe space and dont need to be a role model to others

Approaches & Ideas (RoR related)

• Personally approaching people who reproduce forms of toxic masculinity
• Speaking out loud if people behave badly (we even have the gender-sign for it)
• FLINT-only Rehearsals
• Find ways to get more FLINT-people to maestrate and to take the lead in general